How To Introduce Sex Toys In Your Relationship

Whether it's a blindfold or a butt plug, Sexopolis tells you how to talk to your partner about your fantasies with sex toys.

Bringing up the subject of sex toys isn't always the easiest thing to do, especially if it's something you or your partner have never discussed before.

But if you're worried about offending your partneror if you're nervous about revealing your own personal fetish, don't worry we've got some do's and don'ts from the experts at Sexopolis to make adding sex toys to your relationship a breeze.

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If you've seen something on TV or in an adult film that makes you want to try sex toys with your partner, try mentioning it in a light-hearted, informal way for example, Would you ever try something like this?

If they seem willing to continue the conversation, why not suggest they try something similar and see how they react?

Reassure them that it's not to replace them or because they're bad in bed
A major reason why some people may be reluctant to talk about bedroom games is that they think it's a sign that something is wrong or that their partner is not being satisfied.

To reassure them, try to make it clear that you're not going to replace them you're just going to try something new, make your sex life even more exciting and discover these new things together.

It's like trying a new restaurant, or exploring a new place to go on holiday. Sure, you may absolutely love the place you keep visiting, but it's always fun to throw something new into the mix and discover brand new experiences.

DON'T start with something huge or complicated

Maybe your fantasy is to see your partner using a huge vibrator, or having you jerk off or something similar. But if you've never explored this kind of play before, it's important to start small.

While it can be tempting to go all in on the most expensive or high-tech toy you can find because you think it will give you both the best experience, it's important to get used to using them and see if it works for you first.

DO NOT just introduce a toy in the middle of a session without warning your partner.
Surprising someone with something they haven't agreed to use could backfire big time, even if you have the best intentions.

Make sure he knows about the toy beforehand and that he's happy to use it. Then it's up to you to decide when you choose to put it in play.

Remember to have fun

Finding the courage to have the conversation about sex toys is sometimes scary and stressful, and it can seem like the future of your sex life depends on it going well.

But it's important to remember why you want to try sex toys in the first place.

It's because sex is fun and you want to make it even more fun! Don't take it too seriously and don't see it as everything. Sex toys are great, but the most important thing is having enjoyable sex with your partner.

Respect their decision

Ultimately, if they decide that sex toys are not for him or her, you need to respect that it may just not be for them at this time.

That doesn't mean they may not reconsider in the future. Give them all the information you can about why you think it would be fun, plant the seed for future conversations, and leave the rest to them.