We need to know how to decode the female body ( and our body in general ) in order to get one step closer to the G-spot and its stimulation. This guide will explain and analyse the basics behind finding this mysterious spot and clarify as best as possible the process by which the G-spot is stimulated.
What is point G and where exactly is it located?
The medical terminology for the G-spot is a spongy mass of tissue about the size of a bean, consisting of uterine glands wrapped around the urethra. Because it is very close to the bladder, many women report that they have a tendency to want to urinate during the first few seconds of G-spot irritation. Although the exact location of the G-spot varies from person to person, it is located in the upper abdomen, inside the vagina, at about two knuckle ( or one finger ) distance. Even if you can't find it at once, don't worry... it's there!
It's actually behind, not on top of, the walls of the uterus, so to locate it you'll need to apply relatively a lot of pressure. The G-spot most of the time remains unstimulated and "hidden". When irritated, swelling is noted in the area and specifically at the point, due to the increased blood flow that occurs. It can be distinguished by its texture, which is relatively rough, and looks like it has ridges. Stimulating the G-spot with simultaneous clitoral stimulation can be one of the best ways to start the game, since your partner will be "turned on" for good...!
G-spot stimulation
It's not for everyone!
It's important to know that despite its existence, there are many, many women who are not going to like the irritation at this particular spot. Many even find any contact on the spot embarrassing, so we must first ensure, through proper and taboo-free communication, whether this practice is something that pleases her or not. Health and "good time" in bed is always judged by both participants ( or more if we are talking about crowded formations ) and everyone must be happy without making any discounts and/or concessions to the pleasure and enjoyment they feel.
One reason why there is no response during stimulation at the G-spot is because there has been no prior contact at the spot and the area does not "know" how to react to possible stimulation. Therefore, with exercises that reactivate the muscles in the area and with pelvic floor exercises ( e.g. kegel ) the G-spot can be reactivated and give you moments of absolute pleasure. Exercises that strengthen the muscles in and around the genital area are exercises that will make you feel much better and will improve your sex life as you will have many more ways of stimulation and pleasure than you had before.
The "big" orgasm
Many people report that they can have orgasms from several different parts of their body, but primarily orgasms that come from the clitoris and G-spot are much stronger and more intense, as well as longer in duration. Orgasms associated with and coming from the G-spot create contractions around the uterus, and clitoral orgasms create contractions in the pelvic area. If both types of orgasms ( clitoral and G-spot ) are activated at the same time, the sensation is very strong and completely different from what you know so far. You may reach a point where you feel the orgasm throughout your body, as if something is electrifying you continuously.
Be prepared
Although the ideal scenario would be to have your partner exploring and stimulating your G-spot, it's important that you are the first to know which way you are best stimulated and exactly what it is that you like or dislike about this type of intercourse. You can initially, try it completely alone, trying to explore in depth the spot and the way you prefer to be "teased" at your G-spot. For anything that is new to us and our body, we prefer to explore it on our own at first, and if we succeed ( or even fail ) we can share it with our partner so that we can feel it in 100% of its dimension.
Masturbation is the least we can do in such cases and if we don't succeed in our exploration, we can ask for the help and assistance of our lover to reach the desired result faster and more painlessly.
Exploring the G-spot, Part 1 ( Alone )
First and foremost : Take care of your nails. They should not be too long, clean and have no corners that can be sharp. Start by playing and stroking yourself in the way you are used to by now. It is important to give yourself the time you need to give yourself time to adjust, and there is no better way than to relax in the way only you know how. Anything that excites your senses or imagination is welcome. An erotic movie, dim lights, some relaxing music or some sensual photos are just a few of the many examples that can be provided.
When you are now almost ready and quite well prepared, use your index and middle finger to locate the G-spot where it is located where we mentioned in previous paragraphs of this article.
A good position to achieve this is to lie down with your stomach down. Massage the area with enough pressure and persistence and at a steady pace to start with. ( As long as of course you find your "knob" for the G-spot you can adjust the frequency, pressure and rhythm of the movements needed ). It is likely that you will come to urinate at first. It is perfectly normal and this sensation will soon turn into excessive stimulation and pleasure. You can also push and squeeze the G-spot from the outside, where your fingers are, so that you can feel them and thus double the chances of increasing the sense of pleasure you get from the act.
Exploring the G-spot, Part 2 ( Helping Hands )
Many times, getting to the G-spot with only your hands/fingers as your sole resource is not the easiest thing to do. That's why many of you may prefer to have your partner help you.
Lie down with your stomach down and your hips up. The legs should not touch each other, spread them apart as much as is comfortable for you. ( You can also lie backwards, with your back down and your legs up and open, always remember that the best way is the way that is comfortable for us, not the way that is suggested ).
Have your partner penetrate his fingers inside you, in a curved position, looking down and massage your G-spot if you indicate for his exact position. There should be constant friction between his fingers and the G-spot so that you don't lose contact and then need to start over. It is important that there is continuity in the movements. Give him freedom in the type of movements he chooses to make, as you may also like something different from just stroking or rubbing the point. He can circle, flick his fingers, press with a lot of constant force back and forth, he can even use one finger to stimulate your vagina and the other to stimulate your G-spot exclusively ( if he is skillful enough ).
As in all erotic matters, communication with our partner is an integral part of the act if we want to have a good time. Don't forget to point out what you like and what you don't like. Be honest at all times, as if you show that you like something that you actually didn't like, your partner is going to repeat it over and over again as they will think you like it enough.
Double clitoral and G-spot stimulation is much easier to achieve when you are with your partner as it is much easier for him because of the position he is in. As long as he has both his fingers inside you and he is circling the G-spot, he can use his thumb to initiate stimulation movements on your clitoris. Or better yet, he can use his tongue! It seems simple, but it will make you feel twice as much pleasure as you think! Try it!
One last method that we will mention in this article, which is not suitable for everyone, is fisting. ( penetration of the whole fist into the vagina ) With this method the fingers that are now all inside you have total access to the walls and also to the G-spot itself, stimulating it in any way your mind can put your mind to. It takes a lot of care though and a lot of prep work to relax and open up enough to accept your whole hand or your partner's hand into the vulva.
Climax - Ejaculation
Until the late 20th century, it was believed that the female orgasm coming from the G-spot was accompanied by the ejaculation of urine. This was mainly reinforced by the sensation of urea that women get when the G-spot is first stimulated. In fact, the G-spot has several similarities to the male prostate, and the substance secreted during orgasm is very similar to male sperm.
There is a chance that you may not ejaculate, not all women get it. In some it happens during stimulation, in others during climax/orgasm. It is important to know the diversity between people and that each organism may be the same as all others of the same sex, but differs significantly in its functions, especially in such matters where previous experiences, psychosomatic and other factors play an important role. Also bear in mind that as far as the female organism is concerned, orgasm is not directly linked to ejaculation and are often two completely different phenomena that occur at different times from each other.
Toys and accessories for the G-spot
An erotic toy can always be useful and fun, whether we use it alone or with our partner. It is much easier to find and stimulate the G-spot with a toy than with our hand, and with the help of the vibration we just enjoy the moment without wasting unnecessary time. You can choose between g-spot vibrators with soft texture and material, made of pvc or TPR. The possibilities are practically infinite, as depending on the toy of your choice you have the corresponding function which will reward you!
Usually, erotic toys/accessories that are ideal for the G-spot have a curved tip, so that they penetrate and stimulate the spot more easily. Of course, having a vibration is on the plus side, as if the tip of the toy vibrates then you can feel even more pleasure by touching and playing with the toy on the G-spot as long as you have chosen the vibration setting that pleases you. Here are some suggestions from our sex shop that can accompany and guide you in your exploration of the G-spot, as well as enrich your ( and your partner's ) love life by opening up new horizons that you may not have known until now. Have fun!!!
